Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine

February  2019 Book Pick

Eleanor Elephant is Completely Fine: A Novel

by Gail Honeyman

Synopsis:

No one’s ever told Eleanor that life should be better than fine.

Meet Eleanor Oliphant: She struggles with appropriate social skills and tends to say exactly what she’s thinking. Nothing is missing in her carefully timetabled life of avoiding social interactions, where weekends are punctuated by frozen pizza, vodka, and phone chats with Mummy.

But everything changes when Eleanor meets Raymond, the bumbling and deeply unhygienic IT guy from her office. When she and Raymond together save Sammy, an elderly gentleman who has fallen on the sidewalk, the three become the kinds of friends who rescue one another from the lives of isolation they have each been living. And it is Raymond’s big heart that will ultimately help Eleanor find the way to repair her own profoundly damaged one.

Soon to be a major motion picture produced by Reese Witherspoon, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine is the smart, warm, and uplifting story of an out-of-the-ordinary heroine whose deadpan weirdness and unconscious wit make for an irresistible journey as she realizes. . .

The only way to survive is to open your heart.

 

Book Discussion:

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My (Karie’s) Thoughts on Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine:

Where to start? There are so many points that should be covered in the discussion of this book. So let’s start with Eleanor. Well, I actually think almost every question that could be discussed probably includes Eleanor in some way. Let me just start from the beginning.

My first initial thought of Eleanor, honestly, was that she might have been on the spectrum for Autism. Having a nephew on the spectrum, I recognized a few similar traits. However, I believe I was wrong. The reason being that at the end of the book and learning everything about Eleanor- being socially non-immediately conforming is not a reason to believe that someone is on the spectrum. I actually was feeling quite mad at myself. See, for those that do not know me, I have a tendency to be a very up front, non-sugar coating, truth bomb type of person. I have always figured that if someone asks my opinion then I will give it. None of that “I love you but” bullcrap. COME ON…. the BUT cancels out the I love you part. Before I go off on some other thought tread lets continue, Just because Eleanor is up front with formalities and within the way she shares information shouldn’t have placed a label on her. I actually really love that about her character. Her straight forwardness, her attention to details and her bewilderment at the details that some choose to focus.

That brings me to my next point. The co-workers. I find it amusing that the co-workers (Raymond excluded) pretty much ignore and mock her…. until she starts adhering to the “Social Norms” i.e. wearing makeup, having newer/nicer clothes, hair done…. all the stereotypical woman magazine “Make Him Notice You” crap. I get it; I really do. We, as women, want to feel pretty. We fall into those traps. And what baffles me; is even though we will bitch and complain about it all, when someone doesn’t follow those “Rules” or “Social Norms” then some women will treat that person differently. Why? In today’s society it still baffles me that people, who aren’t the “Social norm”, must adjust their behavior to be liked or to make those around them comfortable. And this is only a 1 way road. Me, being me, I have never had someone change their conversation from some gossip to world news to make me feel included. I have been told to “be softer” or to “Say it nicer”. So why is it that it is expected for some to curve their personality and not others? If one is willing to bend- then others should as well.

On the flip side of this conversation- Because Eleanor decided to under go changes (Although it was for the “Project” i.e. a man) I wonder if she was ready for a change. After everything that happened to her and how long she has been harboring the details- I wonder if a part of her just wanted to rip out of her current shell and put on a new one- like a growing crab running out of space and finally reaches a point where it needs a new, bigger and brighter shell. I wonder if that is where the sudden onset of needing to change, to “fit the life style of what the musician would expect”, comes from. I think she might have needed a reason, to justify growing from the person who she was to who she wants to be.

Next discussion point: Mummy. This will be my last discussion point for a while. I am still making notes on a couple of things and actually I am excited for the Dine & Opine Discussion on this book. Many people are lucky enough to not have experienced anything traumatic. Unfortunately, there are those that have. How one deals with the events is different for each person. How I dealt worked for me… might not work for someone else. However, I think that a person, who has lived through something horrible, can understand why someone else might be dealing with their event in a certain way. Which is why I can kind of understand Eleanor and Mummy. Here are my thoughts:

Eleanor feels like she failed. No. Not just feel, in her eyes she did fail. She tried hard to be the perfect daughter, to make her mummy proud. Because I think she felt that if she could just make her mummy proud then all would be better. Mummy would be happy. When the fire happened and she learns that mummy set the fire on purpose- I think it broke her. Here she was trying, trying so hard to make everything right, trying to make her mummy happy and her mummy killed her sister and Eleanor was suppose to die- but survived. The guilt of not being able to save her sister, to live up to the crazy standards of mummy- standards that would never have been met, she blames herself. With the blame she keeps mummy in her head because she is scared to move forward. I think she was afraid to move on until the “Project”. I think her “project” was a way of breaking free and stepping out of her mummy’s shadow.

 

 

America is not the Heart

Synopsis:

How many lives fit in a lifetime?

When Hero De Vera arrives in America–haunted by the political upheaval in the Philippines and disowned by her parents–she’s already on her third. Her uncle gives her a fresh start in the Bay Area, and he doesn’t ask about her past. His younger wife knows enough about the might and secrecy of the De Vera family to keep her head down. But their daughter–the first American-born daughter in the family–can’t resist asking Hero about her damaged hands.

An increasingly relevant story told with startling lucidity, humor, and an uncanny ear for the intimacies and shorthand of family ritual, America Is Not the Heart is a sprawling, soulful debut about three generations of women in one family struggling to balance the promise of the American dream and the unshakeable grip of history. With exuberance, grit, and sly tenderness, here is a family saga; an origin story; a romance; a narrative of two nations and the people who leave one home to grasp at another.

 

Discussion:

Dine & Opine is starting the 2019 reading year off with a bang. We hope that you can join us in the reading of Elaine Castillo’s America is Not The Heart. Check back for the recap on the discussion.

The Glass Palace Book Discussion

 

Book: The Glass Palace by Amitav Ghosh

Month: December 2018

Restaurant: Inchin’s Bamboo Garden

Book Synopsis:

“Set in Burma during the British invasion of 1885, this masterly novel by Amitav Ghosh tells the story of Rajkumar, a poor boy lifted on the tides of political and social chaos, who goes on to create an empire in the Burmese teak forest. When soldiers force the royal family out of the Glass Palace and into exile, Rajkumar befriends Dolly, a young woman in the court of the Burmese Queen, whose love will shape his life. He cannot forget her, and years later, as a rich man, he goes in search of her. The struggles that have made Burma, India, and Malaya the places they are today are illuminated in this wonderful novel by the writer Chitra Divakaruni calls “a master storyteller.””

Book Discussion:

Well, what to say? First let’s start with my initial thoughts and that begins with a few fun facts:

  1. I restarted this book 3 times…. that’s right… THREE times. I would start the book, then put it down. When I picked the book up to continue; I had to restart because I was a bit confused on where I was in the story.
  2. I still haven’t finish the book.

Now for my thoughts. I am not far into the book, (I seriously just reached into my purse and pulled the damn thing out) I am on page 95; 95 out of 470. Ugh. The story feels disjointed. I can’t place my finger on the exact cause of this feeling. After discussing the book last night (We met on Tuesday instead of Thursday due to scheduling conflicts), I think I figured out at least one reason. This book is classified as Historical Fiction, which is a genre I LOVE, however the book does fall on the more historical side of the genre. Which isn’t a problem. The problem, for me, is not understanding why the author choose some topics to go into GREAT detail about and not others, often time just dropping a topic. The greatest example is his long, detailed description regarding Anthrax and the elephants. If you want to lose your appetite then read pages 79-82. Why so much detail was given on the pustules on the rear of an elephant that grow to the size of a pineapple and then begin to leak a whitish ooze, which in turn, then become Rivulets of blood-streaked puss and not on more details regarding the oo-si in the story or even more history, is beyond me.

The Group Discussion.

Here are the details around Dine & Opine’s meeting.

  • We officially have a new rule (now we really don’t – but kind of do- have rules so we like to poke fun at ourselves) Rule 500 sub paragraph a under book discussions: Discussion questions must be under 3 sentences long. A half page question will, from this point forward, be skipped. (After food and wine; our attention spans are not that long)
  • This book was not a hard read. However, if you choose to read this story- please note that the characters are not developed enough.
  • Again- this book falls heavily on the Historical part of the Historical Fiction genre.
  • This story is for those who want to know history that learn better through Visual Literature.

 

As always we concluded our meeting with Book Picks! This month it was Jennifer’s turn to bring the picks. The picks were as follows:

  • Insurrecto
  • America is not the Heart
  • In the Country: Stories

The winner (most votes) is America is not the Heart. We hope you read along!

Venetia Book Discussion

Book: Venetia by Georgette Heyer

Month: November 2018

Restaurant: Carpe Diem

Book Synopsis:

“Beautiful, capable, and intendent minded, Venetia Lanyon‘s life on her family’s estate in the country side is somewhat restricted.  But her neighbor, the infamous Lord Dameral, a charming rake shunned by polite society is about to shake things up.

Lord Damerel has built his life on his dangerous reputation, and when he meets Venetia, he has nothing to offer and everything to regret. Though his scandalous past and deepest secrets give Venetia reason to mistrust him, a rogue always gets what he wants.

As Venetia’s well-meaning family steps in to protect her from potential ruin, Venetia must find the wherewithal to take charge of her own destiny, or lose her chance at happiness.”

Discussion:

I cannot tell a lie. I love Period pieces. I just do. I find it absolutely fascinating to read a book taking place during a different time, and losing myself in the ways of that period. Now, with that being said.. I enjoyed this book- however apparently I didn’t read the whole book. Back story:

I ordered the book from amazon (the local store didn’t have it and it would have taken weeks to get the book in). The book was suppose to be delivered within 7 days. THAT DID NOT HAPPEN. As the days went by, it became apparent that the book would not arrive in time for me to read the book prior to D & O’s meeting. ARGH!!! Luckily, one of the D&O ladies said that the book was available on Hoopla (Our local Library’s app). So I happily opened my app and searched. There it was… and even better (Since I really do not like reading on electronics – I stare at a screen enough) it was available on Audiobook! Be still my heart! So I downloaded that book and listened away.

Listen away I did… the whole like 5 hrs of the book. hmmm…. thought it would take longer… but I listened, I know the story, wish a couple more details would have been discussed, but liked the book. Time for D&O’s meeting. (By the way.. the book arrived that day before the meeting)

We begin discussing the book. All of a sudden there is talk of when she was picking berries… I say “You mean when she’s walking along the property?” YES… answered many…. I sat there thinking “Hmmmmm I don’t remember berries.” The discussion continues. Finally after a few mentioned scenes and I say “I think my audiobook left out parts.” SMH… it was then that I realized the audiobook that I listened too was the Abridged version of the story. Sigh. At least it was a good laugh and a very important reminder… Read the title fully. That being said. This book was enjoyed by many. The part of the conversation, (For myself) that I most enjoyed, was when we were discussing the question “IF you had to choose one character to be from the story, who would it be and why?”

 

D&O Ladies.. any thoughts y’all would like to share regarding this book discussion?

Book Discussion of The Broken Girls

June 2018

For the month of June we read the book The Broken Girls by Simone st. James.

WOW! We all want to thank Megan for bringing this book as one of her picks… and we want to thank ourselves for voting for this book to be the book of the month. For those of you who have not read this book- here is the synopsis:

“Vermont, 1950. There’s a place for the girls whom no one wants—the troublemakers, the illegitimate, the too smart for their own good. It’s called Idlewild Hall. And in the small town where it’s located, there are rumors that the boarding school is haunted. Four roommates bond over their whispered fears, their budding friendship blossoming—until one of them mysteriously disappears…

Vermont, 2014. As much as she’s tried, journalist Fiona Sheridan cannot stop revisiting the events surrounding her older sister’s death. Twenty years ago, her body was found lying in the overgrown fields near the ruins of Idlewild Hall. And though her sister’s boyfriend was tried and convicted of murder, Fiona can’t shake the suspicion that something was never right about the case.

When Fiona discovers that Idlewild Hall is being restored by an anonymous benefactor, she decides to write a story about it. But a shocking discovery during the renovations will link the loss of her sister to secrets that were meant to stay hidden in the past—and a voice that won’t be silenced…”

This creepy tale will have you hooked in a few chapters. The way the author builds and connects the stories that take place in 1950, 1994 and 2014 will bring a chill to you. Making this book a perfect beach read! As the characters evolve and the story lines deepen, you are left wondering what is going to happen. Even myself, who typically can spot an ending, was left in the shadows, trying to figure everything out.

I have already lent this book to a couple of friends and have passed along the name of this book to many more. This story is an easy read, with deep intertwining stories that will leave you reaching for a blanket to stop the chills.

Dear Mrs. Bird

September 2018

Dear Mrs. Bird by AJ Pearce

Let me start off by saying that everyone LOVED this book cover. And I do mean everyone. The letters- set like an old typewriter’s keys… come on? Who wouldn’t love that and the colors? This cover captured your heart and sadly, that is about it for this book.

When reading the synopsis and reviews for the book- you read words like Charming, Plucky and Fresh to describe this story. For those that have not read Dear Mrs. Bird- Here is the synopsis:

“Emmeline Lake and her best friend Bunty are doing their bit for the war effort and trying to stay cheerful, despite the German planes making their nightly raids. Emmy dreams of becoming a Lady War Correspondent, and when she spots a job advertisement in the newspaper she seizes her chance; but after a rather unfortunate misunderstanding, she finds herself typing letters for the formidable Henrietta Bird, renowned advice columnist of Woman’s Friend magazine.

Mrs. Bird is very clear: letters containing any Unpleasantness must go straight into the bin. But as Emmy reads the desperate pleas from women who many have Gone Too Far with the wrong man, or can’t bear to let their children be evacuated, she begins to secretly write back to the readers who have poured out their troubles.”

Seems Intriguing right? Once you start reading the book; you realize that 1- it is a very easy read and that 2- you think you like the book. Once you finish the book and actually begin to think about the story… you are left with this dread. With this “What the hell?” type of feeling. At first, I truly felt that it was just me; that the other D&O gals would say “WHAT?! Karie no! the book was good.” So the night of the meeting came and the verdict? Many felt the same. The story, although easy to read and you wanted to route for the characters left you unfulfilled. The main Character, Emmeline Lake, left you feeling like you wanted to knock some sense into her. The characters around her, that just let her get away with her antics, also left you questioning humanity (Not in a deep sense but in a “Would this really happen” way). She isn’t the go-getter that the synopsis would lead you to believe, instead she is self-centered, careless, immature character that really…. you want to smack up side the head and say “what are you thinking?”.

The end of the book leaves much to be desired as well. The author manages to wrap it up in a bow and the pieces that don’t tie up… are not mentioned. It really is sad that a book that we thought was going to be interesting/enjoyable left us not wanting more and truly not excited.

Any D&O’s out there that have any thing that they would like to add… please do! And for those of you reading along… what were your thoughts on this book?

The Gashlycrumb Tinies

For the month of October 2018, Dine & Opine read The Gashlycrumb Tinies. Although a few have mentioned that the book is more like a picture book than a “traditional” book; I have faith that the discussion will be one that we will all enjoy. Can’t wait to discuss this one!

Update: Let me start by saying “wow”. We read the book. I mean, seriously, it is not at all a tough book. Very much a cartoon/picture book style and very quick to read. I believe many said they read the book in about 30 seconds… lol. So with a book with little words, stretches and no main plot besides rhyming deaths…. what in the world would we discuss? Ah… Here is what I learned about myself… I wanted to find questions. I searched, read articles, background on the author and then it was as if the student in me jumped up and down and instead of searching… I began researching. Very quickly it became clear that although there are many articles and papers covering the book, the theories behind the book, etc. There were no exact “Discussion Questions”. That being the case, I decided to create questions based on the research that I had done.

The night of D&O’s meeting came. Those in attendance joked about the book. We thought it was cute. Then, I began to go through the questions. Slowly, the discussion went from this is cute and we were thrusted into a conversation regarding the darker material that can be found in the book, the author’s intent and strangers vs familiar people.

At the end of the night we agreed that the book was good. Amy, a fellow D&O, kept saying that she thought I “Made up these questions”. I told her over and over… “I did… based on my research”. Suhanti, a fellow D&O, asked to take the questions home to share with her daughter. My point is that even though a book can seem so easy… you can immerse yourself into the book and find that even the easiest book, many times, can have layers… like an onion… or an Ogre. (Yes, I am quoting a line from the movie Shrek. It seemed fitting).

And never fear… I am including the questions here. I hope you read them and if you have any input.. share! Would love to hear others view points/thoughts on this book!

Discussion Questions for The Gashlycrumbs Tinies

 

The book of Unknown Americans

May 2018

For the month of May we read The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henriquez.

Thinking back to when we read The Book of Unknown Americans I remember the following things:

  • The writing was simple (makes this book a quick read)
  • Even though the book was a quick read- I remember taking time with the book and enjoying the development of the characters.
  • I felt that there was a window that allowed me to look/experience the life that immigrants face.

There are a couple of other items that come back to mind when reflecting on this book. However, the last bullet point is the one that really sits strongly in my memory. The story, built around a family that faces serious changes after the daughter has an accident, is gripping. The story covers so many matters of the heart; love, happiness, sadness, guilt, death, acceptance, hopes and dreams. If I remember correctly; I believe that every character has a moment where they deal with each matter of the heart.

Schindler’s Ark

April 2018

Schindler’s Ark by Thomas Keneally

 

Sometimes it happens. Sometimes you don’t read a book. I completely missed reading this book. I can’t remember why and that bothers me a little. I normally will read every book. I guess missing one every once in a while is ok and not that bad. So, I will have to rely on the other Dine and Opiner’s for this book discussion. I hope that they will comment and/or email me so that I can add their opinions on this book… and any other book discussion.

Educated: A Memoir book Discussion

July 2018

Educated: A Memoir by Tata Westover


What can we say about this book that hasn’t already been said? This book was a wonderfully captivating read. As a whole we, D&O, enjoyed the book and could not stop talking about all of the cringe worthy stories. A few D&O ladies were quick to be able to share moments from their life that were crazy, a way of connecting with the author. We discussed the idea of how people remember things differently. There were so many moments when discussing different parts of this memoir.

We even began google searching, at the table, information on the author and her family; trying to find anything that would fill in the gaps/questions that we began to point out and discuss. This book, we all agreed, is one that we would recommend to another reader.